It’s OKay to feel anger.
Anger is not your enemy.
But it can be your enemy if you act under it.
Anger is to feel. Completely. Recognize it. Embrace it. Understand why. Learn from it. Don’t react, not yet. Instead, let it inspire you to act. And then release it in a safe way and let it go.
And, then act.
With the anger experience in mind, but away from your system. Thinking about it clearly. Wisely.
Because anger is one of those emotions that is designed to be felt, to feel fueled by so it can inspire you to fight. For a cause, for your own interests, for yourself.
And when you get that, your anger no longer owns you; you own your anger.
That is when it gets easier to take the next step, to act with the right mind and heart set. With kind. Compassion. Deep breaths. Love. To yourself and others.
“Happiness can’t be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every single minute with love, grace (and I add: radiance) and gratitude.”
– Denis Waitley
All you have to do is commit and show up to meditate every single day, at least once a day and you will be meditating. Regardless. Even if you think you aren’t. Because unlike you think, you can have thoughts and more thoughts coming in your way while meditating, you may need to still adjust your posture during it a few times, you can feel uncomfortable doing it for whatever the reason… You can even feel as if you are not meditating at all, but guess what? You are.
Because meditation is that time of the day that you choose to spend in your company. Mind, body, soul, spirit. All of you. The dark and the light side and every rainbow in between. It’s that moment that you chose to become more aware of you, of your breathe, even of your thoughts. The louder ones and the whispering ones.
And yes, if you get lucky from time to time you will gonna have that feeling, that experience of empty mind and the fullness of your own true self. But that is not the goal when you sit to meditate. The goal is to let those moments you spend meditating every day bring to your daily life a more serene approach to it, to get a sharper mind to focus and deal better if whatever it may come, to be more opened and compassionate with others, to align yourself with the Universe and flow with it, to be more aware and conscious of who you are, what is your bliss and be able to go for it, to help you go through heaven and hell right here on earth. That is what meditation is for.
And in order to get all the benefits of it you don’t need to learn or be the perfect Meditator. No. You just have to have to sit and breathe as deeply and slow as you can and let it be for some minutes every day. Consistently.
Can you do that?
Then you can meditate.
And if by any chance you said you can’t for this (oh, I don’t have time) or that (I can’t sit still for a few minutes), be aware that this is one big part of you speaking: your ego. Embrace it, hear it, give it a big hug and let it go. Your ego is just there to mess up with you and the way you interact with others and the world. It’s up to you to let it rule your life or not. Regarding meditation or any other subject.
Up to you. Like it’s to decide to give a chance to meditation.
A way of living, that is what happiness is. It is not that shiny happy place you need to reach to actually experience happiness.
Happiness it is taking a moment to recognize that you are enough.
That you are grateful for everything you have and have experienced so far.
It’s that sense of being content with who you are and what you have.
It’s the way you chose to see and face whatever happens to you.
It’s being able to enjoy every strawberry (or chocolate or whatever you like) every time you come across one no matter the “weather”.
It’s dancing in the rain and running under the burning sun.
It’s keeping your serenity having a ride in the dark side of the moon.
And your eyes and heart opened to welcome and embrace all your experiences.
Learn from them.
And let them go.
Them and anything else.
It’s letting your life flows.
And go along with.
Breathe in. And out. All the way through.
It’s being you.
Self-caring for your self.
Being kind to others.
Being empathic. Compassionate.
It’s understanding what tolerance really means.
It’s being surrounded by people you love and appreciate every moment of it.
And letting them know, feel this love and appreciation.
It’s being able to understand (and enjoy) the fact that life has its ups and downs, its beautiful and ugly days and you can’t and shouldn’t park your truck in just one station. This is part of what life is all about. And will ever be.
It’s being Okay even when you are not Okay.