Living a glowing, imperfect life. And helping women to go through Menopause. In Style. And grounded.
There you have it. A perfect illustration of what being supportive means.
I know, many times I behaved like the ones in What people think support means. And I did, like may people do because back in my mind I wanted to lift the burden of a situation making it something lighter or smaller, not a big of a deal. But by saying so it’s not gonna ease the burden for anyone. Acknowledging the burden as it is and being there for the person in words and attitudes is what can do that trick, in fact.
It’s well known that one of the many symptoms of Menopause (Peri, Menopause or Post Menopause) is having memory issues. In my case it was one of the big side effects of my ordeal with Menopause since Peri Menopause started in my late 30s. Again, not so sure if it was Menopause to blame or my B12 deficiency or the mix of both, in any case my memory was hit badly. I couldn’t access memories from my childhood or teenage years, I couldn’t even remember what I had eaten for dinner… it was this empty void for basically any little thing… Sometimes it was really hard to find the right words to say simple, everyday things in my own language because words would vanish from my vocabulary. Retain information was another major problem for me. And of course, writing was one of my most difficult task. Actually up to this date still is. Getting better, but still not ideal. But comparing myself now from a few years ago I can say that I have a quite normal memory. Not a brilliant one but a normal one. And I am very grateful for it. And I do, because I refused to accept it as something that comes with aging. It is not. In my opinion, it comes from some sort of deficiency in our bodies. And we can turn its table. How? Well, I only can tell you what I did that had some great impact in improving my memory issues. Here I go:
I made sure I had all the nutrients I needed. Especially those to put my Methylation back o track. It is really important that you find a doctor that can evaluate whether or not you need extra nutrients and work with him/her to keep yourself functioning well. In my personal opinion and experience, as we get older we need way more nutrients to keep up and if we don’t get them that is when things get weird, off.
I also believe that Meditation can help to ease our minds and nurture it. Meditation and other Zen practices that work for you to release some stress and improve your quality of life. Even Breathing Exercises can do this trick.
Other thing that I did and recommend is to keep your brain busy and constantly working, being stimulated. And with that in mind I decided to learn languages, play some silly games that exercised my brain like Stop, Color Code and so many others. Everyday I played (and still do) a little bit (or a lot!). I also decided to start this blog, in another language, to do that as well. Everyone of those things have been very helpful. And over the years it has become much easier. At the beginning any of those tasks was extremely hard. But I kept up. And it paid off.
So, if you have memory issues as a Menopause symptom, give those things a try. But don’t expect that it get fixed overnight. It won’t be. It can take a little while till you see some improvement. But until then, don’t give up, just keep up.
If you are above the Ecuador, it’s Winter Solstice. If you are below the Ecuador as I am, it’s Summer Solstice. In any case, today is a Solstice’s Day. I must confess that only recently I have become fond of Solstice Celebrations. And I also confess that I don’t know much about it regarding the spiritual meaning of it, but for me, it has become a day to clean, detox my house (in this case my body, mind and soul), nourish it and set the vibe for the new set of seasons. Focus on what I want to bring to my reality and let it go whatever no longer serves me.
Having said that, as far as I have heard, this particular Solstice’s Day (December 21st, 2020) marks the beginning of a new era: The Aquarian Age, supposedly a kinder, more compassionate, collective, equal, fraternal age. And I really would like to think that something like that is on its way. But if it’s, it’s gonna take a very long time to actually begin, indeed. If there is one lesson that this whole Pandemic illustrate very clearly to all of us is that people in general, in its majority really don’t care as much about caring for one another. People care up to a tiny little point if that much. People are so locked in their selfish bubble that I cannot see a better world from this perspective. At least not now or anytime soon.
Still, I am really happy for this Solstice that will bring the conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn, something pretty rare and pretty amazing because they as one will shine as Christmas Star. And I hope that from now on, Aquarian Age or not, we can bring more light to our lives as an I, as much as a We. Drop by drop, one little small step at the time, but always towards the right direction. So one day we can be one. And shine all together.
Or at least something pretty close to it.
Indeed!
It’s OKay to feel anger.
Anger is not your enemy.
But it can be your enemy if you act under it.
Anger is to feel. Completely. Recognize it. Embrace it. Understand why. Learn from it. Don’t react, not yet. Instead, let it inspire you to act. And then release it in a safe way and let it go.
Completely.
Cool off.
And, then act.
With the anger experience in mind, but away from your system. Thinking about it clearly. Wisely.
Because anger is one of those emotions that is designed to be felt, to feel fueled by so it can inspire you to fight. For a cause, for your own interests, for yourself.
And when you get that, your anger no longer owns you; you own your anger.
That is when it gets easier to take the next step, to act with the right mind and heart set. With kind. Compassion. Deep breaths. Love. To yourself and others.
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